First of all, to answer the questions I know you are dying to ask…
Yes, I enjoy travelling alone,
No, my husband doesn’t mind me taking a solo adventure from time to time,
Yes, I occasionally get scared or anxious,
Yes, it can be dangerous if you don’t keep your wits about you,
And Yes, I travel despite these things.
I’m not going to tell you that solo travel is perfect and rosy and not dangerous at all because I would be lying and I want to be honest with you. Solo travel may not be danger-free but it is liberating, exciting and freeing. There are times when I get slightly anxious but I don’t like to let anything hold me back so I travel anyway.
Travelling alone allows me to think and to clear my mind, to figure out where I am in life and what I want. It also means I value the company of my friends and family more when I return to them. It means I can focus on what I want for a few days and be completely selfish in a ‘think about me for once’ kinda way.
When it comes to my husband, we are capable of spending a few days apart because we love and trust each other. They say that ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ and I honestly believe it to be true. He is happy to let me be the independent, wanderlusting female that I am. And if anything, this makes our marriage stronger because we appreciate that although married we are still two individual people.
Solo travel isn’t dangerous in the way that many people think it is. If I had a pound for every time someone has asked me if I have seen the film Taken, with a worried look on their face, I’d be a rich girl. It’s true that travel anywhere and with anyone can have elements of danger to it if you don’t act sensibly and keep your wits about you. And travelling alone as a female has its own risks, but if you know what you’re doing and remain alert you can largely avoid most problems.
I have a lot of people tell me that they don’t want to try travelling alone in case they hate it but I don’t want to live my life around the ‘what if’s’ because if I did, I’d never do or achieve anything.
Leave the ‘ifs and buts’ behind and don’t wait for your friends to join you on that adventure you have been waiting to take since forever. I would tell anyone to try a solo trip at least once even if only for a couple of days. You might decide it’s not for you, but at least you can say you have tried it. Who knows, you might love it and wonder why you hadn’t done it sooner.