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When I fell in love with travelling in 2014, I came to the realisation that if I wanted to see the world, I’d have to stop waiting for people to join me and start travelling solo. Fortunately, I’ve always been fiercely independent and very content with my own company. Don’t get me wrong, I love being with friends and family but I’m also happy going it alone.
I’ve never been one to lean on other people, preferring to challenge myself to learn and constantly push my limits. Growing up, my parents encouraged me to believe in myself, telling me that I could do anything if I just put my mind to it. And I guess because of that, I feel that if I try hard enough, nothing is out of reach.
And that belief filters right through to travel. If I want to travel the world, I will, whether people want to join me or not. I’m not going to let other people hold me back from living the life I want to live. So I’m happy to travel solo.
I understand that not everyone feels this way. And not everyone has the self-confidence to travel solo. But if you can give it a shot, you’ll learn a lot about yourself in the process.
Some people really don’t understand my desire to travel solo, and I get asked a lot of questions about whether I enjoy being alone, whether I get anxious, and whether my husband minds me taking off for long stretches.
So, to answer your questions…
Yes, I enjoy travelling alone,
No, my husband doesn’t mind me taking a solo adventure from time to time,
Yes, I occasionally get scared or anxious,
Yes, it can be dangerous if you don’t keep your wits about you,
And yes, I travel despite all these things.
I’m not going to tell you that solo travel is perfect and 100% safe because no one can guarantee safety. But what I will say is this: solo travel may not be danger-free but it is liberating, exciting and freeing.
Travelling alone helps me figure out where I am and what I want. With no one to make small talk with, I can just be in the moment, undisturbed, soaking it all up.
Solo travel makes me feel accomplished and very self-confident. When I navigate the subway/metro/tube, find my way across a big city and communicate with locals in their language, I rely only on myself. I realise what I’m capable of if I just try.
Being alone for any length of time means I also value the company of my friends and family much more when I return home.
And what’s more, I only have myself to please. I can do whatever I like, eat wherever I want and travel at my own pace.
Realistically, travelling alone, especially as a female, has its risks. And it’s important to be vigilant and keep your wits about you. There have been times when I’ve been anxious about travelling alone, but I will not let my fears get in the way of living a life I love. I don’t want to have any regrets.
My husband and I are capable of spending a few days apart because we love and trust each other. It’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder. He is happy to let me be independent and would never hold me back from pursuing my dreams, just as I’m happy for him to pursue his dreams and travel without me. Although others disagree, I feel solo travel makes our marriage stronger because we appreciate that, although married, we are still two individual, unique people.
I would tell everyone to travel solo at least once even, if only for a couple of days. You might decide it’s not for you, but at least you can say you have tried it. Who knows, you might love it and wonder why you hadn’t done it sooner.
For inspiration, read these awesome stories of females who travel solo without their partner. And check out this post for some of the best destinations for solo female travel recommended by solo female travellers themselves.
Really enjoyed reading this entry and all of your encouragement. I hope it gets more women (and men!) to travel solo. You wrote perfectly my own reason, “If I want to travel the world, I will, whether people want to join me or not. I’m not going to let other people hold me back from living the life I want to live. So I’m happy to travel solo.” Thanks for the inspiring post.
Thanks so much Crystal. Thanks for your kind words. I’m glad you enjoyed reading it!
I can’t believe I waited so long in life to solo travel. It really has been life changing!
Glad you finally did it 🙂 it really is the best!
I couldn’t agree more with everything you are saying. I travel solo most of the time too and get the exact same questions all the time. And to be honest you are never really alone: I’ve met people in hostels, on tours on the bus and sometimes just waiting in line to get into a place or something. What I agree most on tho is when you said you can cherish the time you have with family and friends more after a solo trip. This is so me too. Really loved your post <3
Hey Madeline! Thanks for your comment. It’s so true. I wish more people would try it.
I think it’s great to travel solo every now and then. I travel a lot for my blog and then can’t really take my boyfriend with me. If I can meet somewhere with him we enjoy it double as much! I think it’s the best that way! Oh and haha I love how people ask you if you’ve seen the movie ‘taken’. Like that happens all the time. Great read and keep on travelling!
I totally get you! i feel the same way! Traveling solo shows you so many things about yourself you didnt know before!
I have always thought of traveling solo but I’ve never gotten down to doing it. Still makes me slightly nervous so kudos to you!
It made me slightly nervous too and there are still parts of it that unnerve me but the feeling of freedom, independence and courage outweigh the anxiety 🙂
🙂 Posted my thoughts about this just today.. on traveling, travelers, travel writing and everything around it..
Great. Thanks for reading my post!
Loved this post!! I will be traveling solo for the first time in a couple months and your post was so reassuring. I’m excited for this next adventure!
Thanks Misskissvolunteers. Solo travel is amazing and so exhilarating. I hope you have a wonderful time!
Great post! Followed. 💟 Happy travels!
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your feedback and follow. I have checked out and followed your blog too. Great work! x
You’re very welcome! And thank you! ☺